What Living in Harlem Has Taught Me About Slowing Down.

I know the concepts of “slow living” and “New York City” don’t usually belong together in the same sentence or conversation. However, somehow, the vibrant neighborhood of Harlem makes it all come together beautifully and makes perfect sense. When I first moved here, I found myself unexpectedly caught in hustle mode 24/7—endlessly chasing every freelance gig, staying up way too late editing my work, and trying to make everything happen all at once while feeling overwhelmed. Sound familiar?

Yet, living in the culturally rich neighborhood of Harlem has been a quiet, constant reminder that there’s true power in taking a mindful pause and embracing a more relaxed pace of life amidst the bustling and vibrant energy that defines the city.

🕊️ lesson one: mornings are sacred

Harlem mornings possess a uniquely intentional feel, whether it’s the bodega guy knowing your usual order with a smile or hearing uplifting gospel music drifting out of a charming brownstone window. I began dedicating time for a slow stretch, writing a thoughtful journal page, and making an actual breakfast—even if it’s just a simple slice of toast. This small routine changed my entire mood and set a positive tone for the day ahead.

🎨 lesson two: creativity needs stillness

I used to think I had to be constantly doing something to be truly creative. But honestly? My best and most innovative ideas come to me when I’m leisurely walking aimlessly through Marcus Garvey Park, or simply people-watching without any specific agenda in mind. Harlem has taught me that boredom, surprisingly, can be fertile ground for creativity and inspiration.

👣 lesson three: take up space at your own pace

This neighborhood moves with a harmonious rhythm, not a hurried rush. People stroll, taking the time to greet one another and truly notice the beauty in their surroundings. That vibrant energy gave me the much-needed permission to pause and stop rushing through my personal story. Remember, your timeline is uniquely yours and belongs to no one else.

💛 lesson four: community is built, not bought

I've discovered an abundance of softness in the gentle sidewalk chats, the charming local spots, and the comforting little rituals that fill my days. By deliberately slowing down, I created ample space for those delightful moments — and it is precisely those moments that have collectively made this place feel truly like home.

So if you’re currently in the vibrant city of New York or simply dreaming about its enchanting magic and all that it has to offer — don’t forget that even in this bustling place filled with energy, you can always choose to slow down and truly experience a profound sense of presence. Harlem reminded me of that beautiful truth during my last visit, and I believe that’s precisely why I love it so deeply and cherish every single moment spent wandering its lively, colorful streets.

Talk soon, dolls — take a deep breath today, and remember, you truly deserve it, just as much as anyone else does. Embrace the little moments that bring you joy, and let them fill your heart with positivity.